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Tiia, I've recently tuned into your work and have really enjoyed your thought-provoking newsletters!

The soul of clothes and our emotional connectivity to them (have you read "Loved Clothes Last" by Orsola de Castro?) has been on my mind for quite some time. Years ago I started a blogging project to write a post dedicated to every item in my closet; I've since abandoned that endeavour, but the exercise made me realize how a large subset of my wardrobe - primarily the fast fashion "basics" I'd collected in my early 20's - felt unspiring and un-alive to me. On the other hand, there were beloved secondhand pieces I could go on and on about: their origin story, the construction and details, how I style them, and the memories woven into them year upon year.

The clothes that I see online (and am tempted by all the time) stir an emotional response too, but often only brief flickers of infatuation, like Tinder matches. I think the secret ingredients to developing long, smouldering love affairs with your clothes are time, space, and focus. You need time to get to know your clothes - to wear them and understand how they relate to your mind and body. You need space in your closet to actually see them, so they don't get lost in the clutter. And you need focus against the distraction of infinite beautiful things you could potentially own. Of course, modern life is constantly attacking our time, space, and focus - sometimes it's just easier to wear the same t-shirt and jeans as everyone else...after all, you can ruin what's already dead.

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Yes, yes yes yes. What a beautiful and profound piece of writing. Thank you all of your insights are incredible and they’re woven together as beautifully as ... well something you probably know better than I. Something that lasts. Lately, I have been thinking about talking to my clothes -- when I clean my closet, I sometimes think “I don’t want to wear you” - most often about clothes that are binding when I am looking for ease. I want to have more conversations with my clothes. And here with you! One day IRL. 😘

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